tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5539387633934793609.post1649891383238448492..comments2023-08-03T07:25:13.880-04:00Comments on Brain Travel; A Woman's Musings.: Ask For What You WantAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06462642862031115505noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5539387633934793609.post-67145198464333277862013-05-26T08:24:40.646-04:002013-05-26T08:24:40.646-04:00To Cinnflowergrl:
Your questions, "What if yo...To Cinnflowergrl:<br />Your questions, "What if you are the one that is expected to guess? What if you are the clueless one getting it wrong?" are questions I believe many women would ask. My answer is this:<br /><br />You are not responsible for another person's expectations.<br /><br />Just because the other person "expects" you to guess or mind read, does not mean that you have to do that. In fact, you can't. It is impossible. Certainly you can "guess", as you say. But energy spent on that is enabling behavior. It enables the other person to continue in their behavior. Your <br />"guessing" keeps them from taking responsibility for their own asking for what they want.<br /><br />(Sorry it took me a year to respond. I kept your response in my e-mail because I knew some day I would want to respond. This morning I just figured out who you are. :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06462642862031115505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5539387633934793609.post-84866228710030024882012-05-30T22:49:46.007-04:002012-05-30T22:49:46.007-04:00I often struggle with this. I think deep down I do...I often struggle with this. I think deep down I don't think I deserve to get what I want. I have asked and it is scary, but I am a lot more likely to get my needs met.<br /><br />What if you are the one that is expected to guess? What if you are the clueless one getting it wrong?Bria Sativahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16294713534253911523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5539387633934793609.post-68282193129312163542012-05-13T10:33:07.901-04:002012-05-13T10:33:07.901-04:00Awsome.Awsome.Sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15474657191837922406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5539387633934793609.post-563693328602506692012-05-13T10:06:35.040-04:002012-05-13T10:06:35.040-04:00I couldn't agree more. Well said!I couldn't agree more. Well said!Queen of Randomnesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08882675725517908398noreply@blogger.com